10 sure shot signs to look for when you think you might be stranded around a socially awkward person :
1. If you catch them looking in your direction: they are not staring. They aren't even trying to strike up a conversation. You probably just caught them doing what they do: silently observe their surroundings and everything in it - even people.
2. They're really not looking for conversations, esp with strangers unless they've picked a certain vibe off of from the stranger (INEXPLICABLE connect/attraction) - well then you might catch them looking in the direction of the stranger more than once. Then they're interested, somewhat, yes.
3. Attempts to draw such people into a conversation (unless it's been initiated by them) will nearly always result in startled, staccato responses.
4. Pressing them for conversation will activate their hostile attribution bias. Trust me it will. And it will show itself in the way their body constricts and the slight frown on their faces.
5. They don't like to be the center of attraction unless that is what they specifically want. When they want it, they will ensure it. But suddenly putting the spotlight on them, without their explicit knowledge or interest will result in them feeling all the more awkward even if the attention is positive like admiration, praise etc.
6. Such people have no clue how to respond to compliments. If you push too much they might even say something mildly rude like - please just stop saying that. It's making uncomfortable. - or - I really don't know why you're going on doing this.
Sigh. Lame. I know. But that's how such people are.
7. That book they're reading - it's not time pass for them - it's an important book if they've carried it along with them to an airport terminal, a cafe or a car/train ride. Don't interrupt them by trying to strike a conversation around that book. That book is special to them. You'll leave them feeling very very resentful. The book is there because they don't want to be talking. They want to be reading. And left alone.
8. If per chance they open up - such people can be talkers. If they like you, they can talk your ears off. If. They. Like. You. It's not enough you like them. They should like you back.
9. They are socially awkward. It's different from having chronic social anxiety thought the latter is just the advanced form of the former. But still...
10. If you're loud, garish and bawdy - talk on top of your voices in a public space or squeal too much in your thin, piercing voice if you're ladeej... know you're being judged. Very very judged. Silently. (There might even be a fb post denouncing your existence somewhere, roaming around the great digital universe!:-) )
And that is in 10 points, ladies and gentlemen, a large part of my personality !
PS. And this was fun ! I could do so much more of this. And not just even about me.
I think next I'll write about - your classic sociopath - the god complexed one - a raving nihilist - the insufferable intellectual etc etc !:))
1. If you catch them looking in your direction: they are not staring. They aren't even trying to strike up a conversation. You probably just caught them doing what they do: silently observe their surroundings and everything in it - even people.
2. They're really not looking for conversations, esp with strangers unless they've picked a certain vibe off of from the stranger (INEXPLICABLE connect/attraction) - well then you might catch them looking in the direction of the stranger more than once. Then they're interested, somewhat, yes.
3. Attempts to draw such people into a conversation (unless it's been initiated by them) will nearly always result in startled, staccato responses.
4. Pressing them for conversation will activate their hostile attribution bias. Trust me it will. And it will show itself in the way their body constricts and the slight frown on their faces.
5. They don't like to be the center of attraction unless that is what they specifically want. When they want it, they will ensure it. But suddenly putting the spotlight on them, without their explicit knowledge or interest will result in them feeling all the more awkward even if the attention is positive like admiration, praise etc.
6. Such people have no clue how to respond to compliments. If you push too much they might even say something mildly rude like - please just stop saying that. It's making uncomfortable. - or - I really don't know why you're going on doing this.
Sigh. Lame. I know. But that's how such people are.
7. That book they're reading - it's not time pass for them - it's an important book if they've carried it along with them to an airport terminal, a cafe or a car/train ride. Don't interrupt them by trying to strike a conversation around that book. That book is special to them. You'll leave them feeling very very resentful. The book is there because they don't want to be talking. They want to be reading. And left alone.
8. If per chance they open up - such people can be talkers. If they like you, they can talk your ears off. If. They. Like. You. It's not enough you like them. They should like you back.
9. They are socially awkward. It's different from having chronic social anxiety thought the latter is just the advanced form of the former. But still...
10. If you're loud, garish and bawdy - talk on top of your voices in a public space or squeal too much in your thin, piercing voice if you're ladeej... know you're being judged. Very very judged. Silently. (There might even be a fb post denouncing your existence somewhere, roaming around the great digital universe!:-) )
And that is in 10 points, ladies and gentlemen, a large part of my personality !
PS. And this was fun ! I could do so much more of this. And not just even about me.
I think next I'll write about - your classic sociopath - the god complexed one - a raving nihilist - the insufferable intellectual etc etc !:))
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